Wow, today has been a hard day so far! 😪
Meltdowns from both children. One over a nappy change and the other because of the noise from the initial meltdown. The first meltdown lasted for almost an hour! I’ve been kicked, shouted and screamed at…
I was told by somebody a while ago that they wouldn’t tolerate being hit and maybe the children would benefit from being hit back!
I don’t believe violence teaches anything, and I don’t see how violence is effective when dealing with violence, for the hypocrisy value alone. I think I am being asked to rule by fear! I don’t believe in that either. Even if I did…these people clearly haven’t raised children with additional needs.
My eldest, for example, has no concept despite the repeated conversations and role play.
When they are having meltdowns, they both present differently. My eldest has utter loss of control and looks confused, almost upset and forlorn. He throws himself around as though he just doesn’t know what to do with himself and hits out at me.
My youngest is just so extreme. He gets incredibly angry and throws or kicks things. He shouts and continues to the point that he sobs and doesn’t know how to come down. His tend to go on for around an hour so it’s pretty hard to deal with.
Feeling a bit broken.
Also feeling conscious that I’m making them sound terrible, when in fact they are not. They have clear boundaries and consequences in place, and on the most part they are just a joy to be around. Everybody comments on how polite and well behaved they are…but when something triggers them…my goodness…